Well I know that this Daily Dish is not going to be popular. Let's
face it; the discipline of players at this age is paramount and something that
should not be taken lightly. All too often coaches and parents try to become
friends with these kids. Boys at this age need and desire structure.
a serious word but what does it really mean? In my house that means a scheduled
routine is the way we go about our day, the way we treat other people, and the
way we should treat each other. My two youngest children are not 16 to 20 years old, they're eleven and thirteen years old.
But even at that
young age the children understand consequences, something many junior hockey
players have no clue about. Is that the fault of the parents, the coaches,
or their environment?
That kind of
depends on who you're talking to. I do know this; the most successful programs
never take discipline lightly. Coaches and teams need to establish the line of
what's acceptable and never allow the players to go past it.
In most cases,
when teams have discipline problems the issue comes down to the coach. What is
that coach trying to accomplish, does he understand these players are not his
friends, and that the parents have turned over the reins of accountability to
the coach? The sad part is that a lot of coaches struggle with that responsibility,
and often enable the behavior that leads to serious discipline problems.
It's not that the
coaches are bad people, and in most cases they genuinely want what's best for
the players. I get that, but can't understand when the coaches reward
discipline problems instead of forcing the players to have consequences for
their actions, on or off the ice.
junior hockey provides ample time for players to mature on and off the ice, and
it is the coaches' responsibility to mentor these young men, not enable them.
eventually figure out that balance are the ones that will have the most success.
And also the same coaches that the players will have the most success with, either
in their hockey careers, or even in their daily lives. It's those successes
that separate the good programs from the bad programs.
A good advisor has an established relationship with a network of coaches that get it. Navigating the world of junior hockey without a guide can be equivalent to driving down the freeway with a blindfold on. Take that blindfold off and give us a call.
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