Before getting started, let’s say this; the only reason this is a hockey story is because the person we are about to toss under the bus does his thing in the name of hockey. His company also specifically targets younger hockey prospects.
It’s happened to all of us, somebody from work tries to cross the line and friend requests a spouse, child, or even somebody known from an entirely different social circle. The worst part is when your family or friends accept that request BECAUSE of the perceived relationship to you.
Here’s the deal, these loose associations have a way of biting us in the booty.
Take Anthony DeSilva for example. His friends list includes a great number of hockey folks that are clueless about DeSilva’s fondness for teenage boys. When we asked some of those good people about their relationship with the known sexual deviant, most were clueless they were even remotely associated with DeSilva. Welcome to the power of social media, where a single keystroke can literally change the course of an individual’s life.
A few years ago, I regretfully entered into a business deal with Newedge Hockey from Rochester, New York. The deal was chaos from the start and the idea of a free prospect camp crashed and burned before getting off the ground.
I did accept Ken's friendship request back then and without realizing I had became the victim of his scheme. When my own mother asked me why this man had friend requested her, I laughed it off. When my daughter let me know that it looked like “Ken” had mined my entire friends list, we became concerned.
Out of 291 “mutual friends” there are 40+ with absolutely no connection to hockey, including many that speak Spanish exclusively. This is friends of my Colombian wife, friends in Mexico, and more. Others are from the circle of Christian music that work with my daughter.
So I asked “Ken” about it.
SH: Why have you gone through my contact list and friend requested everyone? Including many outside of hockey?
KN: I am not sure who you are nor have I/we done any such thing. Our email database is 157,550 of opted in hockey players, coaches, parents, organizations, affiliates, and companies etc. We do not look at nor friend request anyone. We rarely use FB.
SH: BS, my friends list, where you are showing up, includes MANY with zero connection to hockey. My mom, niece, cousin, friends in Mexico...
KN: Again, we have no need for your Facebook friends as we only "accept" friend requests. We rarely use Facebook and connecting with a person or persons in Mexico does not make sense for our businesses in New York State. We wish you the best, please do not send any additional messages. I will let Facebook know that you believe we connect with your friends group and hopefully they can do an investigation. I will forward this communication to our owner Rob Sedia and to our legal staff for record keeping purposes. Stay safe and healthy, best to you and your family.
SH: My mother did not friend request you, that’s a bold face lie. Same goes for my niece. Let’s have some fun, tell Rob YOU will be made an example of this week. So fire up the legal team.
With that said, please take a few minutes to go through your own Facebook account and see if the name Ken Neilson appears on your friends list. If it does, also look at common friends and let us know how many appear from outside the game of hockey.
The trap is now set. Hopefully we’ll put a stop to allowing such abuses.